How Do I Get Out of My Own Way?

Many people cannot get out of their own way.  What do I mean by that?  Well, most folks want to get better; they want to change one or more things in their life.  The problem is that a lot of people sabotage their own efforts to grow and change!  This is a common problem that I have experienced in my own life, and one that I see often encounter with others.


A man feels empty inside and overwhelmed by the world around him.  He turns on his computer and loses himself in pornography for a time.  When he emerges, his emptiness has only increased, and his feelings of being inadequate to face the world have not abated. So he retreats into his secret world and the cycle repeats.

A woman is lonely and feels isolated.  Others try to interact with and encourage her.  Unfortunately, the response is often a flood of bitterness, cynicism, and bursts of anger that only serve to drive others away.  So now she feels even more lonely, and her bitterness increases.  She is hurt and furious with the world, because no one understands her or reaches out to help.  Can you see what I’m talking about?


So, how do we get out of our own way?

I try to help myself, but ultimately, I am limited in what I can do to change me.

Staring at my navel won’t really get me anywhere.


Jesus said, ‘Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take my yolk upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.’ Matthew 11:28-29

Come to me.

The first step in getting out of MY WAY is to take the focus off of myself.  I have to reach a point where I truly desire help…not MY ideas of the help I need, but the help that Jesus offers me.  I’ve got to set ME aside and come to Jesus for help.  It is exhausting dealing with ME every day!  Maybe I need to give it up and turn to Jesus.

Learn from me.

What’s that old line?  ‘The definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result!’  Yeah

Maybe instead of just retrying my own plans/ideas/schemes for happiness over and over again, I should turn to Jesus and learn what He has to teach me.

What does he have to teach me anyway?


I am gentle and lowly in heart.

The root of what he has to teach me is Who He Is.

We follow THE ONLY God ever, who puts Himself below His followers!


Jesus, God with us, Lord of Hosts,Creator of All, and Commander of the Lord’s Army…………….is gentle and lowly in heart.

Isn’t that amazing?  Could you imagine a more comforting statement that could be said to someone who is sick to death with mess they have made of themselves!?

We don’t just follow a God who has a lot of power.  We follow One who knows how it feels to be us, and more than that, knows what we need most.


We start learning how to grow, by following Jesus along the path of grace, mercy, and putting others before ourselves.

If Jesus said, ‘The first will be last.’  Why do I keep trying so hard to be first?


You shall find rest for your souls.

Nowadays (yeah, I said that), we love our recreation and holiday time.  We run around and around trying to relax, and all we do is wear ourselves out.

Jesus says that if we want to truly find rest, we must:

Come to Him.

Learn from Him.

Know who He is.

You are not alone in this world.  You were not created to be alone.  But if you spend your life focused on yourself, you will end up alone. Please, get out of your own way!


Spend some time in meditation on this passage this week and grow from it.



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1 Response to How Do I Get Out of My Own Way?

  1. John says:

    I wonder if you’ve considered writing a book. You’ve got plenty of ideas to expand upon. Throw in some stories and life experiences and you’re on your way.

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